What is happening to the world?! Why is everything “casual”? We have casual relationships, casual conversations, and casual sex- where did the feeling behind everything go?
Have you noticed that we have been falling into a line? People talk about how “back in the day” people got married in their twenties, had a bunch of babies, and are still married to this day.
But now, in our instant gratification generation we have almost numb to the idea of true emotion behind the things we do and decisions that we make. Why are we getting married when we don't even want to? Would you like to know the reasons for divorce and infidelity? Somewhere along the line it was decided that after X amount of time getting married is what you're supposed to do. Did you get her pregnant? Yes. Should you marry her? No. That's not a reason to marry someone. Why bring a child into a already dysfunctional relationship where the parents are going to resent one another? That's not what you're “supposed to do”.
Do you feel what I'm putting down here?
I'm so confused on how it's a mystery that there is such a wide range of STI and STD spreading these days- when there's so much “casual” sex happening! We have made it “normal” to have sex just to have it! Where did the sentiment go?! Why aren't we asking ourselves what is wrong with the equation? When did it all turn around?
Having sex to get someone to get them to like you instead of waiting to have sex until you're in a relationship with someone that cares about you- how did that become lame? Using sex to express how much you care about your partner should be the goal, not using sex to relieve a feeling or prove how intoxicated you are.
Pots Calling Kettles
Before anyone fires back with the fact that I have done the exact things that I'm talking about not doing, I already know this. It took me four years of mistakes to realize how I needed to grow. Sometimes you have to learn the hard way! Now I'm trying to pass on the knowledge that it took me too long to realize.
Sleeping with someone because you want to doesn't make you a slut or a whore, I'm just trying to point out that the more we do that the more we fall into the new normal of loss of sentiment. Girls ask why men don't try- it's because they don't have to. There's no way to have it both ways. We either keep letting the emotion and sentiment drain from EVERYTHING or we put a pause on it, recognize that if we want a change we need to be a part of it, and make a 180!
Cinderella didn't have to bone Prince Charming after they danced to get him to follow her, ladies. She made a baller impression on him enough that he couldn't get her out of his head and he went looking for her. He didn't expect to get it in! He just wanted to find the lady that blew him away with her personality, not her mouth.
Asking Questions
Why are we losing so much feeling behind everything that we do?
You guys, we have become so disconnected. Our reality has turned into being someone online, spending days and nights behind our cell phones and on our apps. Upgrading and competing with all these people we don't even know, watching the lives we want from afar and trying to mold accordingly.
We obviously still have feelings. We aren't all cyborgs. You feel angry, you feel passionate, you feel sad.
Just look at everything that the loss of sentiment has created. Have you listened to the radio lately? There are so many songs about sleeping with other people’s significant other that it's depressing. Listen to some stuff from the fifties- I freaking dare you. Guys talk about taking a girl out on a date and chasing after her blah blah blah, fast forward fifty years and now they are singing about having some chick snorting coke off their genitals. Which is weird enough on its own because there are so many things that would have to happen to get that to work. So many problems with it.
Be the Change
I don't know how many times I've said that we have to be the change but it's all I've got y’all. That's what we need to do! If you're upset about how something has changed, change it back yourself. Baby steps here. If you want a gentleman, make him act like one.
If you want to feel special to someone, don't sleep with someone dating someone else. Don't try to break up a relationship- that's so gross. Don't be gross. Being gross is gross.
Open your minds and realize that!
Let's get things back on the right track- less causal, more meaningful.
Til next time babes!
Jess
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